Photos by Playful Soul Photography
I gave moms parenting advice long before I was one. Weird, right? That’s what teachers do. We observe from the outside, and (when asked) give parents tips and advice. I remember while I was pregnant one of my favorite room moms laughing and reminding me that this was a whole new ball game…..there’s no recess from motherhood. She said this is the kindest, most loving way possible……and now I look back and chuckle because, I wasn’t prepared. I thought I was prepared, I mean this is my JOB. But really, is anyone ever prepared for motherhood?
I had a long list of must-dos and never-dos before Lydia arrived. I would NEVER let her watch TV (apparently until she was 12). I would ONLY feed her homemade baby food. I would nurse until she was one. I would plan a date night once a week with my husband. We would have a plan for behavior managment in EVERY situation, and it would always be developmentally appropriate. Each weekend I would plan a special art project for us to do together. Lydia would always be dress perfectly and her hair would always be brushed (who lets their kid out of the house looking like a MESS?).I know, the moms reading this are laughing right? Why? Because motherhood is about having the best of intentions, acting with love, and making a mess of it at least half of the time. The key? Find joy in the mess. Giggle at the food on the floor. If your kid wants to wear their halloween costume in February, let them. Stay up past bedtime once in awhile for extra stories.
To be clear, some of those intentions……actually came to fruition (like nursing until Lydia was one….a total miracle for a working mom or ANY mom). We do limit her TV time, and we do art projects SOME of the time. But I’ve learned that motherhood is the great equalizer. From the neediest families, to the wealthiest parents…..the start of motherhood is the same for us all. We all had those sleepless nights, we all rocked our newborn in our arms as we left the hospital in shock that they let us take that baby HOME, we all struggled with how to survive in the beginning. Look in the eye of any mom, regardless of appearance or finances and there’s a kindred spirit. Why? Because we all GET IT. We’ve all done it.
We’re all in the thick of it, and when our babies are grown…..we’ll all be a little lost without them.
Mom life, as exhausting as it is? Not only is it the best life, it’s the best thing I’ve done with mine.
These mamas? I’m proud to say that while I admire their style, I admire their hearts just as much. In between our emails about our Mama / Daughter Style Series posts, we’ve supported each other through teething, working mom struggles, picky eaters, tantrums, and more. They’re amazing mothers, and I wish they all lived in my neighborhood…….be sure to check out how they styled their Mom Life Sweatshirt!/ Chasing Davies / Sandy a la Mode / Walking in Memphis in High Heels /
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